I’m not interested in women

Yea… I said it! You heard right… I finally said it… I’ll say it again! I’M NOT INTERESTED IN WOMEN!!! Kenyon… What are you saying? Are you gay?

Hell no I’m not! Let me explain…

I am not interested in women. When I say that I mean that I am not interested in having a relationship with any woman in any way! No serious relationship, no friends with benefits (FWB), no casual relationship, nothing!

Why? Because at the moment I can’t, it’s as simple as that. All relationships by their very nature are demanding on one’s resources, demanding of time, money, emotions etc. Right now, I choose to invest my resources in myself! I choose to focus on developing me and investing all my personal assets into me, my career, my dreams, my business goals, my hobbies, my personal life, my family life andmy relationship with God.

Some would say well that’s understandable, but what does having a relationship have to do what that! I’ll break it down into 3 main reasons why.

Relationships take time

Let’s be real about it, a relationship is time consuming. Now don’t get me wrong… a relationship may be time well spent, but it also time taken away from me and all the things I just mentioned. I’ll have to quote Econ again here sigh lol, “If I am in a relationship, I forgo the time I have to myself and to the achievement of my life’s dreams and goals.” Understand now?

Added to that and not tooting my own horn here but I’m like the best person to be in a relationship with! Lol I invest a lot of time, emotion effort and energy into a relationship and ensuring that my GF is satisfied holistically. Plus I’m so romantical lol (creative side of me) and that takes time too! Mama always said anything you do, do it to the best of your ability! Right now I don’t think I’d be the best BF I could be if I was in a relationship! I’ve been single for like a year and 9 months now… It’s not that bad, and I am committed to being single for another two years!

Relationships take money

Another major resource that’s negatively affected in a relationship is money! Now people that know me person know that I’m a fiscally responsible kinda guy lol but still dating is expensive (KFC raised their prices recently lol) and being in a relationship is just as financially consuming even for a man like myself who prides in his fiscal responsibility! In this case I’d have to forego the ease of achieving my goals perusing my MBA (which is ridiculously costly as you know), my business plans (My Team Events and Social Solutions) and family commitments (my close friends would know what I’m talking about). Some ladies would argue that well I’d meet you halfway or they’d pay for stuff too, but let’s be real even if that’s the case, there are still Birthdays, Christmas, Anniversaries and many occasions where you’d just wanna do something special or treat your GF! (my pocket is crying just thinking about this).

Relationships take emotionally

The emotional commitment attached is another reason I’m not interested women. I just can’t afford to! If time and money weren’t bad enough, something about being emotionally attached to someone is draining. Not in a bad way eh! Lol But being connected to someone emotionally is physically, mentally and even spiritually taxing. Think about it! Hard to explain, but it is!  

These three things being said it seems to me that relationships take take take! I’m not saying that relationships don’t give eh… Of course they do. But for me right now the things a relationship can give are not worth the things I can give to myself buy not being in one.

Okay so I’ve just ruled out the relationship option what about the FWB option? Hmmmm well that’s time consuming as well and FWB’s gotta eat too! So money has to spend either way! Lol Furthermore and more importantly, I’m really trying to redevelop my relationship with God so FWB’s is a no no. A casual relationship? Same as a regular relationship without the commitment and besides how many women could really do this effectively? Lol

Now what I’ve decided to do isn’t new at all. In fact women do this all the time! But the fact that a man is doing it may seem strange. A man’s whole MO is generally to run down women! But I pride myself in not being a typical man and I intend to change the status quo. Being fully single is brilliant, especially for a man my age! At this age, men need less distractions and to be able to develop himself into… well… a man! He needs to find himself, grow in his career, achieve all that he can education wise and stabilize himself (house, car, finances etc). If he has done all that not only can he now look to get into a relationship but heck his chances of getting a woman have just multiplied by 10! Just being real, most women, of all ages want a man who has “reached” even if they haven’t themselves. But that’s another post.

So the benefits to doing this are overwhelming! Is it going to be easy? Hell no! But nothing good ever comes easy and in the end I stand to benefit a whole lot!

I know you’re wondering so what’s your interaction with women going to be from now on? :o Well lucky for me I have a lot of female friends lol so I won’t be without beautiful, intelligent, loving women in my life :D (cheap plug lol) So yeah! I’ll just chill with my peeps, so I won’t be without female companionship. I’m definitely not looking to add any new women into my life, that’s for sure! You’re probably wondering so what if you meet a girl that you really like? You could be missing out on the ‘one’. Blehhh I believe when I’m ready for the right one she will be available for me. Oh yea and I am interested in someone and I have been for quite some time but just gotta let that slide. Achieving goals doesn’t come without sacrifices.

So this is my mission, this is why I’m not interested in women, I’m sorry ladies L but I have to do this for me. Check me two years from now though I'll be ready ;-)